Teens and interracial dating
It just doesn’t make sense…at least not to me.”Just as it apparently didn’t make sense to the police officers, and whichever witnesses allegedly sent them to the scene.
One of my friends said she and her husband got the question so frequently, often long before more traditional small talk—such as “How do you know the hosts? ”—that depending on the setting and her sense of humor that night, she might reply with a straight face: “Strip club.” They are both successful executives. She would of course always come clean, after everyone enjoyed an awkward chuckle.
Younger people have historically been more open to racial integration and more positive about race relations than older people, according to Jack Ludwig, senior research director at the Gallup Poll in Princeton, N. (This poll is the latest comprehensive survey of U. teens on the topic of interracial dating.) Consistent with Yancey's findings for adults, only 17 percent of white students who had dated and attended integrated schools in this survey had dated a black person, while 33 percent had dated a Hispanic person and 15 percent had dated an Asian.
The translation can often be read as: “I’m sorry but how on Earth did you two end up together?”It’s not the question itself that’s offensive, of course.Every couple, regardless of racial makeup, will hear this question countless times through the duration of their relationship.And he adds that whites are also more likely to be racially isolated than people of color—a notion sociologists lump under the term "propinquity," which describes the tendency for people to work better or bond with those geographically near them."If you think about communities in the Midwest, in places such as [rural] Wisconsin and Montana, if you're white and even if you're open to interracially dating, there are not that many people of color around," Yancey says.Sometimes, it is not merely being in an interracial couple that can inspire such indignities but the mere appearance of being in one.Not too long ago I was walking with a close male friend who is white.According to Lucas, (he is white, Watts is African-American) officers asked him, “How do you know her, what relationship,” he went on.“They were questions that quite frankly made me feel like that they were questioning me being like the client of a prostitute.”A friend of mine said she has a stock reply ready whenever those who are not in uniform ask a similarly offensive question: “How did you two meet?But when you are part of an interracial couple, it’s how it’s asked, where it’s asked and whom it’s asked by, that usually sends a signal that this isn’t just another nosy inquiry from your elderly aunt (who wants to make sure you’re not trying that new fangled online dating stuff).When you’re in a group of relative strangers, such as at a cocktail party, with multiple couples, and someone singles you out and asks with arched eyebrow, “So how did you two meet?